Dads: Stop Going it Alone

Do this one thing to Level Up your Dad Game.

If there is one thing I am learning from working with Dads, it’s that us blokes are really good (or bad?) at trying to go it alone.

Reaching out for help? Asking for some support? Checking in with others? We are really rubbish at it. Really, really rubbish.

We would often rather prioritise pride, ego and reputation over the perceived shame that goes with asking for support from others.

And we will retain this position almost until we crack. Until something dramatic happens that triggers our survival instincts and we finally, mercifully, reach out for help.

But this is entirely contrary to our genes.

We are social beings and our survival has long depended on us working together.  Neanderthal man only survived by hunting together, eating together, watching out for each other and celebrating together.

If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.
— African Proverb

And you don’t have to look far into the animal kingdom to see how other species thrive when they work together.

Meerkats are experts at trusting one another. One will be placed on guard for prey whilst the others feed. One slip of the guard means life and death for the pack.

Wolves are genius at communication. With a highly evolved social structure they will use every means of communication at their disposal, from their bone-chilling howl to minuscule eye movements. Removal of doubt and miscommunication allows them to hunt confidently in packs, staging ambushes in complete silence.

Yet us chaps seem to have forgotten what it means to work together anywhere other than the sports pitch.

This is never more true than in the realm of fatherhood.

Such a highly personalised and individualised experience, with so much emotion, pride and sense of identity involved. It is little surprise that we don’t reach out and say “er, how could I get better at this Dad game?".

Us chaps seem to have forgotten what it means to work together anywhere other than the sports pitch.

That’s why we are so excited to launch our new Father Forward programme.

A great chance to join a group of motivated and committed men who want to level up their Dad game in just 4 months.

A unique opportunity to really think about how you are showing up as a Dad and take concrete actions towards being the best you can be at it.

WIth a bunch of great blokes who have got your back.

Head over to our Father Forward page to find out more.

Reach out. We’d love to hear from you.

(No Meerkats were harmed in the creation of this blog entry).